Neurodivergent
Relationship Assessment
for Autistic and ADHD Couples
A neurodiversity-affirming consultation to help couples understand how differences in communication, sensory processing, and nervous system regulation may be shaping their relationship.
What Is a Neurodivergent Relationship Assessment?
Relationships where one or both partners are neurodivergent can involve patterns that are difficult to understand without the right framework. Many couples seek support after repeated misunderstandings, communication challenges, or cycles of conflict that feel confusing or unresolved.
This assessment is designed to help couples better understand how differences in communication style, sensory experience, emotional processing, and nervous system regulation may be influencing their relationship. The goal is a clearer framework and practical recommendations for daily life or future therapy.
This is a structured consultation process, not ongoing therapy.
This assessment may also be helpful for couples already working with a therapist. Some clinicians refer couples for additional formulation clarity while continuing their therapeutic work together.
Who May Benefit from This Assessment?
This assessment may be helpful if:- One or both partners are autistic or ADHD
- One partner suspects they may be neurodivergent
- Previous couples therapy has felt confusing or ineffective
- Communication differences lead to repeated misunderstandings
- Conflicts escalate quickly or feel difficult to resolve
- Sensory differences, shutdown, overwhelm, or masking affect the relationship
- A new autism or ADHD diagnosis has raised new questions about the relationship
- Partners want a clearer understanding of how their differences interact
Areas Explored in the Assessment
The evaluation considers six interconnected areas that commonly shape neurodivergent relationship dynamics.
Neurodivergent Traits
Autism traits, ADHD traits, sensory processing differences, and masking patterns.
Mental Health Context
Anxiety, depression, trauma-related symptoms, chronic stress, sleep disruption, and hormonal changes that may affect mood and regulation.
Communication and Processing Styles
How each partner processes information, expresses emotions, and interprets social cues.
Nervous System Regulation
Patterns of overwhelm, shutdown, escalation, and recovery during conflict or stress.
Relationship Interaction Patterns
Cycles of conflict, disconnection, repair, pursuit, withdrawal, and misunderstanding.
Strengths and Protective Factors
Areas of stability, loyalty, shared interests, and relational strengths.
How the Assessment Works
The process typically includes five structured steps, from an initial meeting through to a written clinical summary with practical recommendations.
Couples Intake Session
An initial 90-minute meeting to understand relationship history, current concerns, and goals for the assessment.
Individual Interviews
Each partner meets individually with the clinician (60 minutes each) to explore personal experience, neurodivergent traits, and mental health context.
Questionnaires and Screening Measures
Standardized measures related to neurodivergent traits, mental health, and relationship functioning.
Clinical Formulation
Information is integrated to clarify how neurodivergent traits, regulation patterns, life stressors, and relationship dynamics may be interacting.
Feedback Session and Written Summary
A structured 90-minute session where findings are reviewed and practical recommendations are provided, followed by a written clinical summary the couple may share with their therapist if they choose.
Investment in Clarity
The Neurodivergent Relationship Assessment is offered as a structured consultation process. Payment is divided across the assessment.
Total fee for the full assessment process
Includes
- Couples intake session (90 minutes)
- Two individual interviews (60 minutes each)
- Questionnaires and screening measures
- Clinical formulation and integration of findings
- Feedback session (90 minutes)
- Written clinical summary with recommendations
Services are provided by a registered Clinical Psychologist and may be eligible for reimbursement through extended health benefit plans that cover psychological services. Couples are encouraged to confirm coverage with their provider.
Book a ConsultationMeet Your Psychologist
Dr. Iris Yusupov Rose
Clinical Psychologist and Neuropsychologist, Founder, Autism Wellness
Dr. Rose's training spans clinical psychology, neuropsychology, adult mental health, couples work, and older adult cognitive aging. Her approach is grounded in neurodiversity-affirming principles and a formulation-driven framework focused on how two nervous systems interact within the relationship context. She has extensive experience working with autistic and ADHD adults, and with couples navigating neurodivergence in their relationship.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this couples therapy?
No. This is an evaluation and consultation process rather than ongoing therapy. The goal is clinical formulation and practical recommendations, not treatment.
Do both partners need a diagnosis?
No. Some couples come with formal diagnoses, while others come because neurodivergent traits are suspected to be influencing the relationship. A diagnosis is not required to participate.
Will this assessment provide a diagnosis?
This service is not designed as a full diagnostic autism or ADHD assessment. Its focus is on understanding how neurodivergent traits may be influencing relationship dynamics. If a full diagnostic assessment is relevant, this can be discussed during the process.
What if we are already working with a couples therapist?
This consultation is designed to complement ongoing therapy. Many couples complete it while continuing with their existing therapist. The written summary can be shared with that therapist to help inform future work together.
How do I book?
Booking is completed through our secure Jane platform, or you can contact us directly and we will help guide you to the right next step.
Ready to Book Your Assessment?
Take the next step toward understanding how your differences interact. We are here to support you.